Sept 28, 2016
WOFCF Bible Explosion
Dealing with Anger – Lesson Two (James 1:19-20)
When a person becomes a Christian, his/her conduct and personality should undergo certain changes. One of these changes has to do with temper. A Christian should react in a Christian way and should not lose his/her temper. In this series, we will deal with the problem of anger (rage/wrath) and temper (irritability/annoyance). We will see the root cause of temper and learn how we can be delivered from the sin of temper.
Point #1 We must deal with the Sin of Temper
Temper is uncontrolled anger. It is always wrong. When we lose our temper, there is but one thing to do. We must confess it to God as sin and claim the cleansing blood of Christ. If we have offended or hurt others, we must, of course, apologize to them. Regardless of how many times you lose your temper, you must make things right with others each time. This will humble you and help you to see the damage done by your temper. It is best not to go to the other person while you are still upset, but after you have calmed down, go and make things right.
Point #2 We must deal with the Cause of Temper
Even though we faithfully confess our sin to God every time we lose our temper (or should), we still have a problem. The problem is that we keep doing the same thing over and over again. We lose our temper, and we confess it. Then we lose our temper again and confess it again. We do the same thing over and over. No matter how hard we try, we continue to lose our temper. Is there a remedy for this problem? Yes, there is! The first thing we must do is to discover what causes us to lose our temper. Some helpful Bible scriptures are Proverbs 15:1, Psalms 37:8, Ecclesiastes 7:9, Titus 1:7 & Proverbs 16:32.
What is the root cause of temper? It is SELF! Temper is produced by SELF. Whenever temper is expressed on the outside, we may be sure that there is an angry SELF on the inside. We may try hard to control our temper, but unless SELF is dealt with, we will continue to get angry and lose our temper. Self-righteousness; self-pride; self-exaltation; self-justification; self-will; self-pity; self-love; jealousy are some realistic examples.
Point #3 Temper-Producing Situations
Let us look at a few temper-producing situations so that we may see more clearly that SELF is the cause of temper…
Someone puts us down. Being "put down" or belittled by others is one of the most common causes of losing our temper. Someone says something unkind or hurtful about us, and we become angry on the inside. Our self-pride is injured. This is but one of the many forms of SELF.
We cannot have our own way. We are self-willed and determined to have our own way. When someone crosses us and we cannot have our way, we may sulk or pout, or flare up with anger. What is the root cause of this? It is SELF.
Someone is honored above us.
We like to be looked up to and admired by others. For this reason some may be jealous of others when they succeed. Jealousy often turns into anger when someone gets the job or honor that we wanted. Again, the root cause of these wrong feelings is SELF.
These are but a few temper producing situations, but they show us that the root cause of temper is SELF. We may not realize it, but the main reason for all our discontent is that we love ourselves and want to please ourselves. So long as we make ourselves the center of everything, we will react with anger when anyone crosses us.
To sum it up, temper comes from within us. It comes from SELF. Until the problem of SELF is dealt with, the problem of temper will not be solved.